The Lens through which you view……

Hey Hey!  I’m back after a really long hiatus from bloggin’……. Sometimes I think we need that wiggle room to just live life, learn, explore, and be mindful….then when inspiration strikes we will be ready to flow with it.  Well, today mine struck as I waited to pick up my son from school.  The message to write about the “lens at which we all view life” floated in my head, said “Nichol….write about this”…..so I listened and here we are….a NEW blog post. (and…by no means am I a professional blogger. Just sharing my thoughts for those like-minded souls who may like what I write up)

 

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Life is one BIG perception from our own lens( our own eyes)…a lens from which we view everything around us. This can change from day to day based upon how we feel that day.  Our reality is formed based on our beliefs, most dominant thoughts, and our subconscious “truths” we tell ourselves.(our internal world.) One of my fave lines from a song sings, ” And the world that you see on the outside, is a reflection of what’s on the inside, if you see something that you don’t like, check in with your own life.”.  Umm, how freaking perfect is that?  YES!  A lot of the time we are causing this struggle, resistance, and friction with life around us based on how WE ARE FEELING in that moment.  We are the creators of our experience while in this lifetime, we hold the paintbrush to the canvas at which we paint the picture(s) of our perceived reality, etc.  See the theme here?  YOU+Internal State=YOUR perceived reality. 

How often do you stop and really ask yourselves, “Hey, how are you feeling right now?” and REALLY…I mean REALLY REALLY listen to what your body is trying to tell you?  This is such a great, mindful practice to get into.  You can do this several times a day and I highly encourage doing so. (upon waking up, mid-afternoon, and before bed) This is a great way to get in tune with the ebbs and flows within you….to find out what’s going on and to work with yourself.  How can you help yourself and process emotions if you barely know who you are?  You can’t. You won’t.  This is why it’s so vital to get in-tune with your emotions, thoughts, beliefs…..and go from there.  Explore who you are at your inner core. Getting into the practice of being mindful of your feelings and then labeling those emotions can be incredibly insightful for you.

Here’s a really simple, quick way to get into the flow of your day to day emotions:

Start by simply sitting with yourself in a sacred area or spot(one that feels calming and sacred to you. Mine just happens to be outside anywhere in nature among trees), take a few really deep cleansing breaths, and just ask yourself, “How am I feeling right now?”.  Now, listen…just listen to what thoughts come to mind, what feelings you have in the body, what areas in the body may tense up, and identify that emotion or feeling you are having.  Hey-maybe when you first ask nothing comes up or you think “Ugh, I feel stupid…because this is stupid!” ( ha ha)….Just keep asking and surrendering into the moment and allow the feelings to arise. See what comes up……..Once you have done that ask yourself why you are feeling this way. Check in with yourself…what’s going on?  Identify what has happened or occurred that has you feeling this way.  (name it. feel it)  Then ask yourself, “What can I do right now in this moment to feel better?”  See what pops up.  Just listen. That’s it. Tap in. Tune in.  You are your best friend….we just need to build that beautiful foundation of trust with ourselves and lean into Source (Universe, Spirit, God, Goddess, Mother Earth, Soul…..whatever name you like to give it). Do this everyday and see how your mood or relationship with yourself (or others) improves.  This is such a great way to really get in-tune with what is going on within us because that my friends is what will spill over outside of ourselves and create our experiences.

Hope you enjoyed today’s quick little blog : )  I plan to blog more often and share my insights on things. If this resonates with you then YAY!  Have an awesome day!

Hugs,
Nichol

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Coming out of the “Spiritual Closet”…

Hey All! It’s been forever since I sat down to blog…..life has been busy and to be honest…I hadn’t felt like I had much to say (ha ha). That was until I came to the realization that I was not bloggin’ FULLY from my authentic self….the real deep parts of Nichol that I keep stashed away…hidden ONLY for the true souls I can feel will vibe with me on an energetic level.  (you know..the ones I can snuff out by reading their energy..haha).  It’s not that I don’t trust my friends…hell, even my close family…but it’s because I FEARED being judged hardcore or being branded “weird” or worst of all “fake”.  “Hi, I’m Nichol and I’m a recovering people pleaser.” (ha ha…aren’t we ALL on some level or another!)  I know my friends and family love and adore me deeply (you would too if you had me in your life…for real. haha), but it is scary as hell to say “Oh, hey I see your aura. Oh, I can totally read your energy and vibes right now. Oh, I flip and read oracle cards too. Oh, btw I have this random message that is coming in and I need to tell you this…..  Oh, yeah I also do Reiki energy work where I can sense what is going on in your body on a physical/emotional/spiritual level….oh and I’m gonna lay my crystals onto your chakras now.”  See….that would scare off most people right there and have you thinking, “WTF are you talking about and are you a voodoo witch or what?”  See!  See what I mean.  Scary as shit to let people know that side of you unless you know with certainty they dig on that New Age stuff.  But, I know what I do matters….I’ve helped so many people by doing what I do….and guess what?  That’s why I do it. I’m a helper and a Humanitarian…it’s who I am. And you know what? I’ve created new and lasting friendships with some of the coolest souls because of this journey I’m on. (So hugs to all of you Souls…you know who you are!)

Truth be told…I have been  tapping into this side of my life for the past 4 years or so…..but only just now really letting it out in the open.(See..if you know me….I’ve beee doing this for a while…not just this year. ha) Why now you ask? Because I’m tired of acting like this is weird, bad, or some voodoo magic witch craft stuff. It’s not…we all have the ability within us, but only some of us awaken to it and really embrace it…flexing our Spiritual muscles and getting back in tune with our Inner Source.  This is part of who I am and I love this side of me.  I am a light worker. I am an energy healer. I am an intuitive. My life’s purpose revolves around this and spreading messages of healing, love, light, and compassion.

Everything from being a fitness instructor, essential oil wellness educator, positive vibes spreader, and energy healer all scream: THIS IS WHO I AM WORLD! Yes, this is who I am.  This is me. This is Nichol.  Take it or leave it. One of the BIGGEST pills I’ve had to learn to swallow over this journey of self-discovery was learning that no matter what…not everyone is going to love me or like me. Yep, you can be the freakin’ juiciest peach out there, but inevitably there will be someone out there who hates peaches.  ( ha ha) And you know what? I’m okay with that.  Because I’m not for them and those people are not for me.  I’m right here being myself and living my truth….and the right people will align with my path.  (Yep-if you are rolling your eyes reading this or thinking I’m crazy…I’m prob not for you and you are not for me. AND maybe..just maybe I’m picking up on your energy right now and seeing how your view me. Just maybe….ha)

So…even though this was scary to write and put out there….this is another side to me that most people really don’t know.  And guess what? Now you do.  See…you learn something new every single day.

Hugs and Love,
N

Being Enough….

Happy Monday and CHEERS to a brand new, spanking week friends!  All weekend long I kept hearing the whisper of “enough” in my ear and I knew that this was something I needed to blog about.  Maybe it’s more for me than it is you….but maybe you need to hear it too. I felt led to share…and that’s what I’m doing on this gorgeous, sunny day.

In a society that always telling us “more, more, more” I sometimes find myself saying “I am enough.” Simple as that.  Stop letting what you see, what you read, what you’re told, or what you have pushed into yourself as a belief system tell you that you aren’t enough.  I’m tired of feeling like I’m not “this” or I’m not “that”……blah blah blah…whatever it may be that day…I’m OVER it!  I’ve been really working on just allowing, breathing, being, and telling myself I AM ENOUGH!  I know I lead my life with a kind, open, and giving heart. I know each day I try my best to be better than I was yesterday.  I know that every damn day I’m doing and giving my best.  I know that with every thought, move, or comment I make I’m doing it from a place of love and trying my best to sprinkle my positive vibes errrrrrrr-where, you feel?? I am ENOUGH.

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I’ve to a point in my life that I LOVE the Nichol that I’m evolving into.  I love the rhythm of life that flows within me.  I love where life is taking me and I’m realizing that I’m enough.  I check in with myself when I feel “less than” and ask myself “Why are you feeling this way?”  Well, more times than none…the answer will surface. I honor the answer as it comes out, acknowledge and let it go.  Seriously, LET that SHIT GO!

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Be a good person. Show compassion.  Open your heart.  Don’t be afraid to communicate the truth when you need to. Come from a loving place.  Replace those negative vibes with positive vibes.  Drop the judge-y tendencies. STOP comparing yourselves to others. Be kind. Speak with a soft tongue. Spread LOVE  and NOT hate. Stop the gossip.  Above all, realize you ARE ENOUGH. I feel like when we realize this…all the self-loathing, hate spreading, and negative ways seem to fade away from us and our lives and we actually fall into a flow of much needed peaceful serenity in our lives. (remember, true happiness is cultivated from WITHIN us first)   Try it….what do you have to lose? (except some bad habits and negative vibes.)

Hugs,
N

Summer’s coming and So are our Insecurities…

Happy Monday Ya’ll!  I was inspired to write this blog post after seeing an Instagram post by someone I follow who is in the fitness community.  I know it touched me deeply as I still struggle with my own body image (I too have my bad days where I beat myself up, but I know enough now to recognize that self-sabotaging mindset and try my best to redirect my focus. I’m a work in progress…as we all are) and I know there are many out there that this will hit home with.

 

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Summer’s coming. Ahhh, sunshine, warmer temps, lounging in the pool, sun-kissed skin, summer concerts, cook outs, and you guessed…LESS clothing!  Eeekkkk!!! Shorts, tanks, sun dresses, and swimsuits…..does the very thought of those items of clothing have you running for the hills yet?  If you are like most….summer time freaks us the F out!  It’s the time where we expose more skin (because it’s hot..duh…and wearing jeans and slouchy sweaters just doesn’t fit the bill anymore..haha) and our biggest insecurities come out.  You start examining your body as if under the microscope as you view it in the mirror…picking apart every inch, inspecting every lump…every bump…every curve…sucking it in, pinching your skin folds and we make ourselves feel… shitty…..we make ourselves feel real shitty.  I do it…you do it…WE ALL freaking do it! Honestly, we are our toughest critics and most people do not view us the way we view ourselves.

 

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When I see girls rocking bikinis, shorts, or whatever they are rocking I’m not judging them….I’m honestly giving them a HUGE high five in my head.  Why?  Because I admire the confidence and self-love they exude wearing it because I wish when I wore certain things I did it with a carefree vibe and not worrying who is judging me or talking about me. (which they aren’t…my lovely Ego gets the credit for creating this dialogue I carry around in my mind)  I feel a sense of happiness when I see people wearing shorts with ease and I think they look gorgeous. I probably fixate on people wearing shorts because I’ve always been really self-conscious of my lower half.  Always…and will probably always be.  I’m working on it and working on just turning my focus to taking care of my body with movement and healthy nourishment.  I’m working on accepting the things I pick apart and just saying “screw it! I’m wearing what I want and I will freaking rock it”.  Because really…when it comes down to it…NO ONE really cares what you are wearing anyway.  It’s all about you.  Not them.  Because in the end…loving ourselves, who we are, and what we look like are what truly matter.

 

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So I leave you with this bit of wisdom:  When you see a girl wearing a bikini, short shorts, sleeveless tops….do not judge them, do not pick them apart, and certainly do not make them feel bad for getting up that day with confidence saying “I’m going to wear a bikini at the pool today.” CELEBRATE them!  You have NO clue the struggles they may have with their body image.  You have no idea what they have overcome to achieve the body they so proudly display.  You have no right to judge another’s body. PERIOD. As women, we are SO freaking hard on ourselves and other women.  Let’s stop that negative thought process and start to uplift each other.  So rock it…rock those summer clothes with pride this upcoming season and stop judging ourselves as well as other women. ” What you say about another is a direct reflection of what you feel about yourself inside. ”

So if you find yourself on the end of judging others then I say to you this “What about yourself are you projecting onto others?”

Until Next Time…..

 

Hugs and Love,
N

Daily Rituals….Do you have them?

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Happy Wednesday Ya’ll.  Today’s blog post is a random thought I had while meditating this morning.  I was all in my “zen” space when the thought about all the things I do first thing in the morning and before I go to sleep at night bring me a sense of peace and how much these simple things bring me joy.  My rituals are the things that MUST happen in my day or else it makes me feel off.  These are things that are not forced, but things that I do because I love how they make me feel.  They start and end my day on positive, peaceful, and happy notes.  I think creating rituals cultivates a peaceful, happy, and positive demeanor inside of ourselves that flows over to the outside world around us.  Taking care of YOU is of numero uno (throwing around some HS Español that sorta kinda remember. haha) important!  Remember what they say….”You can’t pour from an empty cup.”.  Take the time to do, enjoy, and practice those rituals that start and end your day on nothing short of a happy note.

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Here are some of my MUST do rituals…..

Morning:
1. Open all blinds and windows (weather permitting) on first floor.
2. Start brewing my cup of coffee
3. Apply my “Happy Nichol” essential oils to kick off the day
4. Burn my lavender incense
5. Drink coffee and eat my breakfast in silence while enjoying the birds chirping outside my window.
6. Do at least 10-minutes of mediation (this gets my mind right and my intention set for the day)

Night:
1. Apply my Gratitude Young Living essential oil to myself
2. Write out 10 things I’m grateful for in my Gratitude Journal
3. Do at least 10-minutes of Self-Reiki before I fall asleep

These may seem silly to some, odd to others, or nothing “special” to many….but these are  the things I do EVERY single day and night that make my day feel whole…complete.  This is just a quick snippet of what I do to start and end my day….I do a whole lot of other stuff in between as well : )

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Do you have rituals you do each morning? Night?  Do you feel off when you don’t do them?  Do you make sure you do the things that kick off your morning on a positive note?  Are you making sure to do things that end that day in a happy way?  Take time to cultivate practices that align with who you are…do things that bring you a sense of peace. People are gonna judge you no matter what you do or not do….you might as well do what makes you happy.  After all….it is you who matters first and foremost in this life.  You can’t expect to take care of others if you aren’t happy yourself : )

Hugs,
N

What brings you joy?

Happy (late) Tuesday ya’ll!  Today’s blog topic is brought to you by some “self work”  and some writing exercises I am doing.   If you know me at all…you know I’m always reading self-growth books, listening to positive living podcast, working on myself…all while drinking my hot tea, incense burning, wearing my “hippie” Young Living oils, and probably listening to some chillaxing music in the background : )  Yep, that’s me…in a nutshell (mostly) . I like this Nichol and I think she’s pretty badass.  I feel most at peace when I’m in that “zone” doing those things.  I adore quiet time and freedom…….and when I get those moments I like to work on me.  It’s my fave thing to do (okay, okay….I sometimes like trashy reality TV and some Pretty Little Liars..haha…..or I love my Netflix!  Like right now….thinking I need to restart One Tree Hill or Mad Men again..haha) 

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So today I ask you…when was the last time you followed your bliss?  When was the last time you checked in with yourself to say “Hey self….what brings your joy?”.  It’s probably been a LOOOOOOONG time for most of you, hasn’t it?  Why??  Why haven’t you explored what brings you bliss?  What makes you feel good?  What makes you feel most like you?  Right now, I want you to list out  things that make you feel blissful or bring you joy.  You can say it out loud, say it in your head, write it out in a journal, or you can put in on your notes section of you phone. Don’t think about it too much….just take a few deep cleansing breaths, clear your mind and then ask yourself.  Whatever comes to mind…let it flow.

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I’m a big believer in checking in with ourselves and asking what it is that brings us our bliss.   These can be simple things too….it could be taking a long hot bath while drinking a glass of wine, taking a fitness class (hey…come take mine! haha), reading a book for 10-minutes uninterrupted, getting a facial or massage, going for a walk in nature, having coffee with a friend….whatever it is just do it.  It will make you feel better, it will boost your spirits, it will boost your attitude and your outlook.  A few things that bring me joy are:

1.Coffee in the morning with a quiet house (I usually go outside and drink mine when weather is warmer.  Hi Indiana….did you hear that?  Warmer please..pretty please!)

2. Being outside in nature. (nature is my fave way to clear my mind, connect with the Earth and to just recenter myself)

3. Teaching Fitness. (I love connecting with others and when I’m teaching I’m in the zone. I transcend to another level.  I feel free and fluid)

4. Reiki(I love being able to do this practice on myself, but more so on others.  I love helping to harmonize their energies and helping them move past blocks in their energies.  I love being able to help people. Doing healing energy work is very much a part of my soul and something I am truly passionate about.  When I’m doing Reiki for myself or others I’m doing something that truly flows with the joy I have in my heart.)

5. Coffee (because duh…it’s coffee)

6. My Young Living Essential Oils (I have my EVERY SINGLE DAY protocol in the morning that I do as I brew up my coffee.  I LOVE starting my day off applying them)

7. Incense. (I burn incense every single morning while I drink coffee and do some meditation. I feel so out of sync if I don’t have one going during this time of my day)

8. Meditation.  (yes, scary word I know. I use to think same thing too.  Some days I have awesome meditations,some days my freakin’ brain won’t shut up, and some days I don’t get it in…..but I try my best to make it a point to do AT LEAST 10-min a day.  I always come out of it feeling so good.  Try it…if you sit in silence for just 1- min a day…boom progress. Don’t let the word meditation scare you off….many people do it different ways.  Find the way that works best for you. )

9. Yoga.  (ahhh, I so love my yoga. I give my body the deep stretching it needs and it also pulls me out of my “I must do everything to perfection in exercise” mindset I tend to have. Yoga gets me out of my head and pulls me into a deep sense of connection with the NOW.)

10. Retail Therapy. (Hello…..I’m a girl and I love shopping.  I’m a spirit junkie who also loves some good fashion and girly makeup.  I love it and it makes me happy.  See…not all things are tree huggin’, tea sippin. and incense burnin’ up in my world….haha)

**Notice I didn’t put my “joy” into other people?  Yes, I love my friends and family….but you need to find things outside those relationships that cultivate joy on your OWN terms.  The joy and happiness we seek lies within us…not outside of us and certainly not in another’s hands**

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So I leave you with this question….what brings YOU joy and bliss?  I encourage you to find it and do it….daily.

Hugs,
N

Creating YOUR Tribe

This originally started off as a Facebook post, but I had a lot to tell you so needless to say it got breathy and LONG real quick. ha ha.  That’s when a light bulb went off…”Make this a NEW blog entry Nichol!!”  Ding Ding Ding……we have a winner and a new blog topic to discuss today.  CREATING YOUR TRIBE!!!! So…here we go!

 

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I read a TON of books on a weekly basis.  What can I say……..I thirst for knowledge and love growing myself in all aspects and areas of my life.  After reading one of my new books a chapter I recently read  inspired today’s blog post. It was all about creating a tribe…that foundation of people who inspire you and better you.  This is something I feel passionate about. This is instrumental in creating a solid foundation for leading and living that “Happy, Positive Life” that I’m always preaching about. I believe it, preach it, and live it.

 

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Like attracts like.  If you feel great about yourself you will attract those people who feel great about themselves.  If you feel shitty about yourself and your life….you guessed it….  YOU WILL most certainly attract those people who feel shitty about themselves and their life too.  It’s the Law of Attraction people!  People tend to just feel and be happier when they surround themselves with people who bring out their BEST attributes, seriously.  Please show me or tell me about one person who is a constant complainer, downer, “poor me” mentality, or always the victim that makes you feel so rockin’ and full of life.  (If you are saying to yourself that you have someone in your life that makes you feel awesome, but does all that negative stuff. Umm, okay…but I call bullshit.  Those people can drain every ounce of life and positive light in anyone.)

 

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Creating your tribe takes some action work on your part.  It causes you to take full inventory of every person you allow into your space.  It causes you to take action and  to ask yourself some real and raw questions.  It causes you to get honest about your life and who you are willing to allow in it.  Here are some questions or things I want you to think about:
1. Who do you want in your tribe and why? (what kind of people do you admire? what attributes do they possess that you love? who are some living people that you know or may not know that possess attributes that you love?)

2. Listen to your gut instincts. (In my personal experience people’s energy does not lie…ever. Are you drawn to this person?  Do they draw you in magnetically to them? Do they make you feel good?  Do they make you feel put off?)

3. Reinforce relationships with great people in your life. (Tend to the garden of good relationships in your life.  Make it a point to have weekly coffee dates, do lunch together once a month, etc.  Point being….make it a priority to stay connected and bask in the wonderful energy that those people fill your heart with.)

4. Embrace virtual connections. (social media is a fantastic and easy way to make connections with likeminded people or groups who share similar interests as you, who will inspire you or who will spark new growth within yourself.  I have made some AMAZING connections and friendships with people through social media.  Some of which has been COMPLETELY and utterly instrumental in my personal growth.)

So, there you have it……  My thoughts on creating this badass tribe of people who inspire you to DO, FEEL and BE better. I promise you that once you have team players in your life who are pumping you full of vibrant life and not draining you of it that you WILL see massive shifts in your overall wellness. (mind, body and soul).

Until next time…….