Good Morning Friends!
Today I wanted to talk about body image and embracing all those things about ourselves that we may not like. Embracing our perceived flaws, the things about our body that we may not like that much….possibly even hate. (I too have body parts that I don’t like that much…..). I want to talk about embracing those things and loving ourselves…the WHOLE ENTIRE PACKAGE : ) In discussing this, I hope that it will help you look deep inside to see where these issues stemmed from and help you release those blockages so that you can begin to embrace yourself….and better yet, LOVE YOURSELF in it’s entirety. (together we can help get to the bottom of it all….and learn to love everything about ourselves.)
Somewhere down the line….something or someone happened that helped you form the opinion(s) about what you most dislike about you. (if you fully love every single thing about you…I applaud you. That rocks!!). For most of us, we are working on overcoming those issues….myself included. Many times we form opinions about how we should look based on magazines, the opinions of others or even from our egos telling us how we should look. How many of us look through magazines and think that our body doesn’t measure up to this flawless picture that graces the covers/inside of the magazine? It’s only natural to think that…..because it’s there in your face and your mind goes into over-drive analyzing those pictures. Well, remember this….AIRBRUSHING and PHOTOSHOP my loves. These women rarely look magazine perfect in their everyday life….how awesome would it be to have a snap of the finger “airbrush and Photoshop me” option before you left the house? haha……but, in reality we don’t. So here is where we need to dig deep and work on “self love”. Embracing everything about our body, loving it and being gentle to it. I love the quote “The body believes everything the mind tells it.”. So, if you constantly look in the mirror and say “Ugh, I’m fat! Ugh I hate my thighs! Omg, my skin is awful! My stomach is disgusting!” How do you think your body is reacting to all those negative comments? Does your body transform to your liking after filling your head with all those negative thoughts and self talk? Probably not.
I am a work in progress…..no one is perfect. Self-image/Self-love/Self-acceptance is something that I’m ALWAYS working on. (I’m sure there are so many of you out there who can relate to this too). For me…..it’s a process of learning to embrace and accept that “perfection is an ILLUSION” and that I need to love me for all I am. This is something that I have been embracing each and every day on my spiritual journey. My biggest battle has always been my thighs. I’ve always hated my legs…I wished for skinny legs…asking “Why did God give me such muscular thighs??”. I rarely ever wore shorts (something I’m still learning to embrace)…always covered up my legs when people were around when I went swimming in fear they would judge my thighs and silently think ” Wow, Nichol has fat legs!”. For years and years I’ve been plagued with hating my thighs.
When I started on my spiritual journey…this was something I really wanted to work on. (Self-love is such an important factor in living a truly happy life.) I started to go through my thoughts/situations/people in my life and try to figure out why on Earth I felt this way about my legs. Then it hit me….I knew EXACTLY where this all came from. This situation I’m about to tell you about has STUCK with me my WHOLE ENTIRE life (remember friends…words have power. They can be used for bad or good. It’s up to you.) I remember being in 8th grade, sitting in my IT (Industrial Technology) class when this boy (who I will leave unnamed due to people reading this who may know him) said to me “GOD you have huge legs. Those are like pythons!” (mind you…my legs weren’t huge!! I was always in shape/been muscular and was maybe a size 0 when he said this to me.) OMG…let me tell you….that made me feel as small as an ant. Total embarrassment and shame…..I just sat there, not saying a word. All I wanted to do was cry (and I’m tearing up writing this bc this is totally therapeutic and essential for me to get out so I can continue to work on this block…. ). I sat there and said NOTHING, absolutely nothing. I couldn’t even comment or form a good comeback in fear of crying…….I was speechless. (what an ass of a boy, right???) This is EXACTLY where my fear of my thighs started…..all because of what some jackass of a teenage boy said to me when I was 13 years old. His words affected me my whole life (I know what you are thinking…..why did I let him have such power of me? Right?? Well, I am asking myself that too. haha.)….making me feel insecure about wearing shorts or bathing suit bottoms. Always scared that when I showed my thighs that I was being judged and talked about. (seriously, I would have this inner dialogue telling myself that as I passed by people they were talking about my thighs…ugh) I always, always felt that when I showed my thighs that every single person who saw me was thinking in their heads that my legs where fat and huge. (seriously, I did…and this fear made me ashamed to wear shorts in the summer. Not kidding.) Pinpointing this moment in my life has been HUGE ! It made me see the turning point in my life where my self-esteem had been affected by what some insensitive teenage boy said to me. (pretty sure he didn’t realize just how those ugly words truly affected me at the core and started years of insecurity over my thighs…ugh).
So…as you can see, I too have struggled with loving ALL of me. Something I am working on and improving with each passing day : ) I am more comfortable in my body now that I’m in my 30’s than I ever was in my early 20’s. I feel more confident….I’m not ashamed to put on shorts (although those thoughts of having huge thighs sometimes rise up….but I just have to look in the mirror and tell myself that I’m beautiful…every part of me). I’m thankful for my athletic and muscular body (and thighs) that provide power. I can lift those heavy weights with ease, I can jump high, I can power through all my workouts, I can dance with power and grace…… and my legs allow me to carry my body with effortlessly. I appreciate the power these stems provide me and am grateful for them. Instead of hating on them or hiding them I’m learning to embrace them….because they are part of me and all of my is beautiful.
My friend Ron (who is a totally awesome psychic and intuitive….he’s seriously so amazing!) made a youtube video talking about things that “block” us and stop us from growing. He talked about how those things people say or do can totally effect us and subconsciously stop us from growing into our fullest potential. (One of his examples were of wanting to write a book, but being afraid to. Telling himself that he wasn’t a good writer, couldn’t spell well, etc. He wasn’t sure why he thought this, but just knew he couldn’t do it….but ALL of us were telling him he should. So he dug deeper and recalled a memory of a time he turned in a paper to his teacher back in elementary where she basically told him he was a horrible speller, and that his writing wasn’t that great all while kind of laughing about it. Then he had his “AHA” moment in pinpointing where this fear of writing began…..fast forward to present date…he is WRITING a book RIGHT NOW!!! Go Ron!) Okay, getting back on track….his youtube video struck me and inspired me to dig deeper into some blockages I had. The one regarding my thighs has always been a HUGE ONE (it may not seem like much to those who are reading this…but it has. It’s affected me my whole life). Once I figured out WHY I felt this way about my thighs…. I could now FINALLY release it and forgive the situation, even the person…in return FREEING myself from it all too. (if you want tips on how to release these types of blocks…let me know. I can help you out with that)So this is basically how the whole “body image” and “embracing our WHOLE selves” came about. (sorry it was so long winded…haha. ) I felt like this was a topic that most everyone could relate to……we are not alone in the fears we feel regarding our body or appearance….but the older I get and further into my spiritual journey I go, I realize that loving myself is of #1 importance. If I love all of me…..everything is happier, more positive and falls into place as it should. Just remember that words really have SO MUCH power….use them for good and kindness. The world NEEDS more of that. Uplift someone when you can and in return you will uplift your own spirit.