Happy Monday Ya’ll! I was inspired to write this blog post after seeing an Instagram post by someone I follow who is in the fitness community. I know it touched me deeply as I still struggle with my own body image (I too have my bad days where I beat myself up, but I know enough now to recognize that self-sabotaging mindset and try my best to redirect my focus. I’m a work in progress…as we all are) and I know there are many out there that this will hit home with.
Summer’s coming. Ahhh, sunshine, warmer temps, lounging in the pool, sun-kissed skin, summer concerts, cook outs, and you guessed…LESS clothing! Eeekkkk!!! Shorts, tanks, sun dresses, and swimsuits…..does the very thought of those items of clothing have you running for the hills yet? If you are like most….summer time freaks us the F out! It’s the time where we expose more skin (because it’s hot..duh…and wearing jeans and slouchy sweaters just doesn’t fit the bill anymore..haha) and our biggest insecurities come out. You start examining your body as if under the microscope as you view it in the mirror…picking apart every inch, inspecting every lump…every bump…every curve…sucking it in, pinching your skin folds and we make ourselves feel… shitty…..we make ourselves feel real shitty. I do it…you do it…WE ALL freaking do it! Honestly, we are our toughest critics and most people do not view us the way we view ourselves.
When I see girls rocking bikinis, shorts, or whatever they are rocking I’m not judging them….I’m honestly giving them a HUGE high five in my head. Why? Because I admire the confidence and self-love they exude wearing it because I wish when I wore certain things I did it with a carefree vibe and not worrying who is judging me or talking about me. (which they aren’t…my lovely Ego gets the credit for creating this dialogue I carry around in my mind) I feel a sense of happiness when I see people wearing shorts with ease and I think they look gorgeous. I probably fixate on people wearing shorts because I’ve always been really self-conscious of my lower half. Always…and will probably always be. I’m working on it and working on just turning my focus to taking care of my body with movement and healthy nourishment. I’m working on accepting the things I pick apart and just saying “screw it! I’m wearing what I want and I will freaking rock it”. Because really…when it comes down to it…NO ONE really cares what you are wearing anyway. It’s all about you. Not them. Because in the end…loving ourselves, who we are, and what we look like are what truly matter.
So I leave you with this bit of wisdom: When you see a girl wearing a bikini, short shorts, sleeveless tops….do not judge them, do not pick them apart, and certainly do not make them feel bad for getting up that day with confidence saying “I’m going to wear a bikini at the pool today.” CELEBRATE them! You have NO clue the struggles they may have with their body image. You have no idea what they have overcome to achieve the body they so proudly display. You have no right to judge another’s body. PERIOD. As women, we are SO freaking hard on ourselves and other women. Let’s stop that negative thought process and start to uplift each other. So rock it…rock those summer clothes with pride this upcoming season and stop judging ourselves as well as other women. ” What you say about another is a direct reflection of what you feel about yourself inside. ”
So if you find yourself on the end of judging others then I say to you this “What about yourself are you projecting onto others?”
Until Next Time…..
Hugs and Love,